State your expectations and beliefs now!
In mental coaching, we use an ‘AMAP’ (Athlete Mental Aptitude Profile) which is a great tool to get to know someone better. It also finds out if the beliefs and expectations of that person are correct or need some work.
All of us have a weakness to work on. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with this but it’s worth remembering that even the most stable person can be better. I want everyone to be successful. When expectations and negative beliefs appear regarding an event, an action, or something from the past, this is called ‘Mental Game Undercurrents’. These can occur as a result of:
Perhaps the expectation is to reach a certain score, time, or even lose weight.
In the fitness industry, for example, it’s typical to observe unrealistic objectives in weight loss. This expectation limits the success. There is no enjoyable part, only expectations and unrealistic wishes.
This is a wrong belief brought on by wrong mindset and behavior, based on a past event. Generalizing is expecting the same thing to happen again and again.
The simplest way to understand it is from past experiences. If in the past, you went to the gym but did not follow a personalized fitness program, you may have used the wrong weights and your muscles may hurt for some time after. Your memory will form a generalization, tricking you into believing that the gym is bad for you and is always painful. Obviously, this isn’t correct. All you needed was the correct training and fitness program.
Unrealistic expectations (no purpose or high expectations) result in irrational beliefs and limit positive results and success. So what should you do? Perfectionism can be the reason. In this case, try to be more relaxed about the result; otherwise you will face failure every time.
Negative Self Label
If you think negatively about an aspect of your personality or something you might not do well enough from your perception, you will sabotage yourself and invite failure. Imagine you are at the swimming pool and your body isn’t the shape you would like it to be. The result of negative self label has the potential to stop your training, reduce your performance and reduce your self esteem. Nothing positive will come from this attitude or behavior. So think twice before you think negatively!
In psychology, people reacting in such a negative way will engage three main thinking errors:
-Ignoring the positive
-Accentuate the negative
It may sound obvious but it’s difficult to be conscious of this attitude and to fix it right away when it happens.
Have you ever felt uncomfortable in the morning, knowing you have to train but your body isn’t awake and you just want to go back to sleep? How is your brain reacting? It is telling you that you’re not good enough; that the person next to you is better, fitter and luckier? It’s making you think that you want to be that person. But why? Everyone is different and comparing yourself to someone else is a part of the expectations, generalization, irrational and negative labels. Think about it. The next time it happens you will know the skills and the rules to help you adapt your thoughts.
The best formula I ever read about psychology is called formula success.
‘Expectation equals failures, manageable objectives are the key’.
This is the best way to deal with expectations and negative beliefs. It worked for me and is an ideal base for the emotional approach to training.< Back